Tuesday, February 3, 2009

About time for a post!?

[Warning: this is a bit of a journal type entry.]

Well after getting a few comments in the last few months, I feel like I should post. I'm just not sure what about. Life after overcoming vaginismus has meant a different life in comparison to life before our experience in NY. I can't say that I still don't have my anxiety about things or that I don't have stress in my life, but its greatly improved. Honestly - more than I ever thought possible. So much insecurity, anxiety and stress was suffered because of the uncontrollable vagina.

Seriously, the Women's Therapy Center was amazing. It was so overwhelming and SO worth it. My favorite moment was using a tampon. Seriously... how could I have gone so long without!? Life during that time of the month is so much different now. But who wants to hear about that!? :o)

I started making progress last January when I was able to start separating the 'what's wrong with me?' and started saying 'What's wrong with that vagina down there?' I seriously had to separate it out to feel more in control. If you are struggling through the process to overcome vaginismus, just remember that you can control that %*#! vagina. (Sorry, but I know how frustrating it was when it won't cooperate!)

I have to say that sex has been absolutely amazing and when I had vaginismus I didn't think that I could enjoy it! I always thought it was just for the man... NO WAY - it can be enjoyable for the women as well and don't let anyone tell you differently! Keep trucking along in your progress and you'll get there, too.

Let me know if you have any questions about the process... or want any tips through the process of overcoming this crazy thing we call vaginismus!


Sarah said...

I underwent the same treatment at the WTC. I was married 9 months before starting treatment, and shortly before our one year anniversary we were able to have intercourse, thanks to the program. Even though I am physically able to, I don't enjoy it. I do my best to cover it up for my husband, but it's hard to do and he has me figured out. I just don't understand how I will ever get over my issues...the idea of penetration has always repulsed me, which was the cause of my vaginismus. But how do you go from being repulsed to liking it? Don't get me wrong, I am thankful just to be able to physically handle it now. But I wish I was normal, and able to enjoy it like everyone else...

Jane said...

just stumbled onto your blog...nice to hear a success story.

fate said...

thanks to share this with us!I am looking for treatment of my vaginismus and I would appreciate it if you give more info about your successful treatment! did you do Botox injection? can I ask you about the costs?

This2shallpass said...

Thats great that you have overcome vaginismus I am in the process of looking into getting surgery to overcome vaginismus and I am documenting my journey on my blog (overcomevaginismus.blogspot.com).